How to avoid getting friend zoned
How to avoid getting friend zoned and find your soulmate when there are zillions of single people in the world
“I can’t give you a definitive answer on why some people meet someone and some people don’t. It’s probably a question. Here are some tips and tricks on how not to get friend zoned so you can really pursue the one you like.
One: Stand up for yourself more
If the guy isn’t giving you attention or any sort of sign that he might be interested in you, speak up. It is not easy to say something about someone you like, but it is necessary to make yourself feel like you have some power. So, confront him if you feel he’s not treating you nicely or that he’s not showing you the attention you deserve. Some guys don’t realize when they are behaving badly. That’s why it’s so important to express yourself when it comes to these issues.
It is good to be aggressive in the pursuit of your happiness, but always bear in mind you should stay nice even if your instincts tell you otherwise.
Two: Don’t let one person impact your entire life
Don’t let one person decide what you should do or how you should live your life. It can be so tempting to use your other friends as motivation for your decisions, but you should be brave enough to make the right decisions.
It’s not your fault if the friend zoned you
You may blame yourself for being too nice, too nice to guys you like or always thinking that you’re one of the many available girls in your city, but it’s important to remind yourself that we’re all just people. No one likes to be rejected, but that’s what happens when you push someone away.
Three: Leave any bad memory behind
If you have a lot of bad memories with this guy (because of what he did to you or how he hurt you) you should throw the first stone. If you don’t, it’s likely you might keep this person in your life to feel like you’ve been punished for something. Just find new people who will be there for you.
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Four: Talk about your ex
Find a friend you can confide in about your breakup, and talk to him about your ex when the opportunity arises. Talking about your ex isn’t going to create a fresh wound, but talking about your problems with a friend can also help you move on and find a new guy who will treat you well.
Five: Stay away from drama
Don’t try to take sides in any feud between your friends, and keep things positive between you. If you give someone room to make negative remarks about someone in your group (you’re not going to get into the details of your ex’s behaviour, so don’t spill it), he might take advantage and that is not going to make you feel good.
It is better to keep your mouth shut than lose your cool and create a bad situation for you and your friends.
Six: Take your time
Most of the time, a guy who is interested in you will show up in your life. It’s in his nature to be the guy who puts his foot down and shows interest. When that does not happen, leave it up to the universe to bring the right guy to you.
Seven: Don’t hook up with someone who isn’t a good match
If you don’t feel comfortable around someone and if you don’t think he’s the right guy for you, don’t hook up with him. You may feel some sort of instant attraction, but if he doesn’t make you happy, there’s no point in doing it.
Most guys will test you to see if you’re willing to make this serious relationship commitment, and if you don’t feel like you’re being taken advantage of, you should not do it.